It happens to most of us. We fall for someone who doesn't reciprocate our feelings the way we wish they would.
Sometimes it's because they are totally out of our leagues, sometimes because they love someone else, sometimes because you just don't make them feel that way.
You start talking to him/her - with dreams and hopes and fear that it might go wrong. You approach with caution, you think of your next move for days - even if it is just a casual "hi". This goes on for a while - Excitement, anxiety, thrill - and what not.
Helplessness is what you feel now, when you realize that it's not working. You try to impress them, flirt with them, tell them that you love them more than anyone ever will, but useless...
The only thing that you want is the person to love you, and that's the one thing which you can't have. There is hardly anything you can do about it. You can't make them feel what you want them to feel. Anything less than that isn't good enough.
You weep silently in your despair, for days. You crave for them - you can almost physically feel a painful knot form in your stomach - hurting constantly. Your heart aches. Your head aches. Your eyes swell up after so much crying. You don't feel like talking to anyone. You reply rudely to everyone.
You can't let go, you can't move on - and you can't be with that person either.
If you are in talking terms with the person even after this, whenever they say something kind to you, you start feeling that may be, they have started feeling something after all. You'd smile all day long, dreaming, only to realize after a while that it was merely an act of politeness or pity.
A few such acts of kindness just arouse your hopes to a new level. Then a few instances arise when you realize that they don't really care about you specifically, and they would have done similar stuff for anyone. Then your hopes fall to a new low. This high, low, high phase continues for a while.
The cover pic of your facebook profile and your status updates might reflect this phase very well. ;)
And how can I forget to mention how drastically your song playlist changes.
It might take months to actually accept the fact that it's not going to happen.
You are broken inside but you just smile and just be thankful to God that you fell in love. Love is an awesome feeling - you realize how selfless you can be, how pure and childlike your desires can get, how beautiful someone can appear to you, how thrilling the idea of spending your lifetime with them can be.
You feel that you can never love anyone ever again. You can never take so much pain again because you'll never find someone worth taking so much pain for .
You walk away - with bitter and hurt memories.
You just hold your head high and make a mental note to tell him/her someday that it's them who have lost something invaluable.
Somewhere in your heart, there is still a part which believes in power of love - and hopes that may be someday...
And it hurts when you feel that there are still such false hopes left...
And then you write such answers on quora. ;)
Image - from intenet ( Loving someone who doesn't love you back is like hugging a cactus, the tighter you hold on it, the more it hurts )
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